When we’re faced with a problem it is a natural to figure out what caused the problem and fix it. When it’s a relational problem, looking for the cause often creates greater discord. Both parties point a fault finding finger at the other. There is an alternative way of approaching the problem issue. What if the problem is named, that is described without attributing blame? When the problem becomes the focus and not people, everyone can work together for a solution. It takes heaps of courage to refrain from finger pointing and assessing blame. The results are worth the effort.