I have a friend who is having a health related problem. My friend’s doctors have told him he has to modify his behavior if he wants to see any improvement. My friend doesn’t want to give up what he is doing. He prefers to continuing doing what he is doing, suffer and complain. We can want to help people but it always up to the person we want to help to want to be helped. His life is a good lesson. Real change has to come from within us. We have to want to change more than we want to stay in a self-defeating pattern.