How often have you had someone tell you, “You should do this? Or, “You shouldn’t do that?” Did you listen to them? I think it’s wise to ask other people about their insights into problems we face. I don’t think it’s wise to hand over our decision making to them. When we take ownership of our decisions we become the creators of our life. Yes, we may make wrong decisions, in our errors, we learn valuable truths. We also develop a sense of independence that is essential to self confidence. Fyodor Dostoevsky wrote, “To go wrong in one’s own way is better than to go right in someone else’s.”