If your brain keeps giving you the same answers, maybe it’s tired of your boring questions. What if the key to a better vacation—or a better life—is as simple as asking something radically different? You’re only one fresh question away from an adventure your routine can’t even imagine.
The questions we ask make all the difference in the world to the quality of our lives. We’re not aware of it, however, we constantly ask ourselves questions during the day. It’s something we do unconsciously. We ask ourselves hundreds of little questions like, “Should I go to the bathroom?” “How did my team do last night?” “How is the stock market doing?” Then, there are more profound questions such as, “Do you love me?” “Why do you want to split, I thought we were OK?” “I wonder if I should see the doctor about this lump on my arm?” And there are lots of questions in between such as, “Where should I go on vacation this year?” I wonder what he/she will like for his/her birthday?”
How we ask our questions often determines what we find. If we change the type of question we are asking we get a different answer. Here is an example of how this happened to me yesterday. I have been thinking about where I’d like to go for a small vacation this summer. My mind kept going to a favorite spot in the Rocky Mountains. I thought of other places, but they couldn’t compare, in my mind, to my favorite spot. I checked airline prices and lodging prices and availability. I was set to make a decision when I decided to ask a different question. The question I asked was this, “What if I could go to any place in the entire world but not the place that I am familiar with in the Rocky Mountains?” Well, my brain started buzzing. At first it resisted. It didn’t like that question. But the more I thought about it the more freeing it became to me. I began to think of a way to get answers to that question. I’ve settled on three possibilities and none of them are in the Rocky Mountains. I’m excited to go on my little adventure later in the summer. Is it time you asked yourself a different question?
🤔 Three Speculative & Engaging Questions:
- What’s one area of your life where you keep getting the same answer—because you keep asking the same question?
- If you weren’t allowed to choose your usual go-to solution, what else might be possible?
- What hidden doors might open if you changed “Why is this happening to me?” to “What can I learn from this?”