Ever tried to stop someone from walking straight into a disaster only to be met with a “Thanks, but no thanks”? Welcome to the uncomfortable, cringy world of giving advice to people who didn’t ask for it—and might just be starring in their own personal B movie.
When do you stop giving others advice? Maybe we shouldn’t ever give advice to others who did not ask for our advice. Let them figure it out on their own. What if you can see that what they are okabbubg ib doing will end up disastrously? But the person you are concerned about is headstrong and all set to make a decision that only has one outcome. That outcome is bad. It sounds like I’m writing a script for a B movie. Perhaps, our lives resemble a B movie at timss and not an Academy award winner. This is especially true when the person you want to help is someone close to you. It could be a partner, a spouse, an adult child, or a parent. I’ve had these struggles. My general rule of thumb and I’m not sure it’s the right one, is to mind my own business. Let others do what they want to do. If they ask me, my advice, I’ll give it. But if they don’t ask me, my advice, I found my best strategy is to keep quiet. At the same time, I have to remind myself not to say I told you so. Maybe the best lesson we learn in our personal B movies are the hard lessons that life teaches us. We didn’t sign up for this class, but it is the class we got. If you feel must say something a strategy may be the following: When you communicate with this person say, “way of dealing with situations like these is to say, “Here’s how I see it, toss my comments in the trash if you like. I offer them in a helpful way.” Hope your B movie gets an academy award nomination and wins the award for BEST ADVICE EVER GIVEN”
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3 Amusing, Thought-Provoking Questions:
- Have you ever delivered a brilliant piece of advice, only to watch someone treat it like junk mail?
- When does helpful turn into meddling—and are we ever really objective about that line?
- If your life were a B movie, would your character learn the hard way… or just roll the credits and try again next season?