When it’s shining, don’t throw shade. Everything will be brighter.
I’m picking ripe figs from my fig tree today. The figs are sweet and delicious. I recall buying this fig tree three years ago for twenty dollars. I water it, prune it, and praise it. I’m sure it hears my heart felt praise. It’s not the lottery, but it’s a ripe fig. I’m savoring every bite. I believe I see another ripe fig. I leave it for the mocking birds.
We are gifted in a relationship when we are encouraged to continue the journey of self-discovery toward fulfilling our destiny. When each partner to the relationship honors this is in the other, two strong people emerge as co-participants in the creation of the relationship.
Life is a lot of giving and taking. It’s the way it works. If we want happy, healthy relationships we let go and tip the balance toward the giving side of the scale. There are times when we gratefully take and accept what is offered to us. It never balances out. I think that relationships whether at work, socially, or with a committed partner, the balance is always tilted toward the giving side of the scale. In healthy relationships, one doesn’t measure the amount of give and take. It happens the way it supposed to happen.
Are you in a good relationship? I hope so. Let the other know how much you love him/her often. Let him/her know how honored you are to be a relationship with someone who brings so much to the relationship. Tell him/her what it is they bring to the relationship. Hold hands. Dance. Play. Talk and listen. Forgive. Be passionate with each other. Never let the sun rise or set without a kiss and saying, “I love you.”
Some dreams come true. Some dreams don’t come true. One thing is certain, there is an infinite supply of dreams. If you’re dream doesn’t come true, choose another. It may not be what you originally wanted, but it may be better. Allow your dreams to change as you mature and gain experience. You may one day be grateful you didn’t get the dream you originally wanted as you enjoy the dream destined for you.
Do you have a candle? Set on the center of your table and light it. Each time you pass by the candle let it remind you of your goodness. Whenever you’re down, light your goodness candle. It will remind you that you are good, worthy of respect and dignity.
When we trust each other, relationships work. We can trust the other not to hurt us. We can trust the other not to lie to us. We can trust the other to be true to his/her word. We can trust the other do what he/she says they will do. Trust is the glue to good relationships.
Who are you listening to? If they haven’t made the trip, they can’t show you the way. Listen to those who paid the price and made the journey through their sweat and tears. When we’ve made the journey we speak with authenticity.
When we take sides, we often lose sight of the goal. Taking sides sets people in opposition to each other. When we set aside taking sides, we become about US. When we become about US, we work for what is best for US as a group. No one is left out. No one is placed on the sidelines. No one sits on the bench. This works in families and in organizations. The best families and organizations know it’s abut US.
