Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart. ~ Khalil Gibran
Welcome to Episode 109 of “Journey from Grief to Healing” with Dr. Ray Calabrese. In this episode, Dr. Ray delves into the profound feelings of loneliness and despair that accompany the loss of a loved one. Drawing inspiration from Walter D. Lamar’s poignant poem “Alone,” he explores the metaphorical ‘winter’ that engulfs those who grieve.
Dr. Ray discusses the importance of shifting focus from inward pain to outward connection, using analogies to illustrate the healing process. He emphasizes the role of patience and hope, quoting insightful thoughts from Daniel Goleman and Father Henri Nouwen .
Listeners are encouraged to embrace the light of hope and patience, guiding them from the darkness of grief to the light of healing. Join Dr. Ray as he offers comforting words and practical advice to help you navigate your journey of grief and find renewed joy in life.
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Stay strong, never quit, and remember: love always wins.
Also marvelous in a room is the light that comes through the windows of a room and that belongs to the room. The sun does not realize how beautiful it is until after a room is made. A man’s creation, the making of a room, is nothing short of a miracle. Just think, that a man can claim a slice of the sun. ~ Louis Kahn
Light belongs to the heart and spirit. Light attracts people, it shows the way, and when we see it in the distance, we follow it. ~ Ricardo Legorreta
In the heart-touching episode 97 of ‘Journey from Grief to Healing‘, Dr. Ray Calabrese emphasizes the importance of surrounding ourselves with positive influences as we process loss and continue our journey towards healing. He uses the example of a colleague whose unpredictable mood swings serve as a reminder to maintain an environment of love, positivity, and anticipation for the future.
Dr. Calabrese shares his realization of how interactions, though seemingly routine, acted as lifelines, pulling him towards life and away from the gloom of grief. His experience reminds us that even as we fake a veneer of happiness amidst our painful journey, our friends, family, and neighbors are stretching out lifelines of hope for us.
Drawing from his own journey, he discusses the importance of being in environments that symbolize life in full bloom. He quotes from Roy T. Bennett’s ‘The Light in the Heart’ to encourage us to spend our lives with people who spread joy, laughter, and love, and inspires us to make the painful yet necessary choice to live and not succumb to despair.
Dr. Ray brings the essence of Emily Dickinson’s ‘We Grow Accustomed to the Dark’ and a line from J.R.R. Tolkien to empower us to brave the darkness of grief and march towards the light of life. This episode motivates us to stay strong, never quit, and anticipate the good things unfolding in our lives.
You can listen to Episode 97 on your favorite podcasting app or click here for Episode 97
NOTE: Every person I’ve known has experienced dark nights. The darkness, at times, can seem to be devoid of any semblance of light. We wander through the darkness with our arms outstretched trying to find our way through. Suddenly, a flicker of light instills in us a great hope that the darkness will end. Where does the flicker of light come from? It comes from each of us when we become aware of a friend, a family member or another walking in the darkness. Each of us has the power to be a new dawn in someone’s life. We can make the day brighter. I am grateful for those who gave me sparks of light during my dark night journies.
The poppies send up their
orange flares; swaying
in the wind, their congregations
are a levitation
of bright dust, of thin
and lacy leaves.
There isn’t a place
in this world that doesn’t
sooner or later drown
in the indigos of darkness,
but now, for a while,
the roughage
shines like a miracle
as it floats above everything
with its yellow hair.
Of course nothing stops the cold,
black, curved blade
from hooking forward—
of course
loss is the great lesson.
But I also say this: that light
is an invitation
to happiness,
and that happiness,
when it’s done right,
is a kind of holiness,
palpable and redemptive.
Inside the bright fields,
touched by their rough and spongy gold,
I am washed and washed
in the river
of earthly delight—
and what are you going to do—
what can you do
about it—
deep, blue night?
