The Blessing Behind the Bench: How Disappointments Build a Life Worth Living

What if the no’s you received growing up were the hidden yes’s your soul needed to thrive?

Things that seemed devastating to us as a child or adolescent often turn out to be wonderful gifts. There were a couple of ball teams I didn’t make. Not making the teams, at the time, was devastating to me. I was disappointed and I thought I disappointed my father. Those disappointments and many others created a strong drive in me, over time, to work hard and be successful. I don’t think I would have been as successful in my life as I have been if it wasn’t for the disappointments. As I look back on my disappointments, I can thank the different coaches for not selecting me. My life would’ve been totally different if I had been selected and if I had been successful as a ball player. I’m happy with my life and the journey I’ve taken, so the disappointments must have been good for me. Somehow, without thinking about it, I turned the disappointments into a triumph. How often have you done this? I imagine you have many examples of disappointments that you turned into triumphs. Instead of ruminating on a disappointment reflect on how it transformed your life. As an adult, I’ve always operated with the notion that the path I’m on is the right path for me whether I chose it or not.

Three Questions to Deepen the Theme:

1. Can you think of a moment in your life when not getting what you wanted turned out to be a blessing in disguise?
2. How have past rejections or failures fueled your growth or redirected you to a better path?
3. What story of personal disappointment can you now view through the lens of gratitude or wisdom?