Sugar, Sweets, and Alcohol: Finding Balance Without Shame

What if enjoying sweets and a celebratory drink didn’t require guilt—only a little awareness and intention?

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Few things stir up more anxiety during the holidays than sugar and alcohol. Cookies appear everywhere. Desserts multiply. Drinks flow freely. And with them often come rules, resolutions, and quiet self-judgment.

But balance—not avoidance—is the healthier goal.

Sugar and alcohol aren’t moral failures; they’re substances that affect the body in predictable ways. Understanding those effects allows us to make kinder, wiser choices—without turning the season into a test of willpower.

Let’s start with sugar. Research shows that high intakes of added sugar can cause rapid spikes and crashes in blood glucose, leading to fatigue, irritability, and increased cravings later in the day. Over time, excess sugar intake is associated with metabolic stress and inflammation (Lustig et al., 2012). The issue isn’t the occasional dessert—it’s repeated, unbuffered exposure throughout the day.

That’s where context matters.

Eating sweets on an empty stomach hits the body differently than enjoying them after a balanced meal. Pairing sugar with protein, fiber, and healthy fats slows absorption and helps stabilize blood sugar. A cookie after dinner is very different from a cookie as lunch.

Alcohol works similarly. Moderate intake—defined as up to one drink per day for women and up to two for men—can fit into a healthy lifestyle for many people. However, alcohol disrupts sleep architecture, impairs judgment around food, and increases dehydration, especially when consumed late in the evening (He et al., 2019).

Again, the issue is not celebration—it’s stacking effects.

Holiday stress, irregular sleep, rich foods, and alcohol can compound one another. Balance comes from spacing, pacing, and hydration. A glass of wine with dinner, followed by water and an earlier bedtime, has a very different impact than multiple drinks layered onto exhaustion.

Another helpful strategy is deciding ahead of time. When choices are made in the moment, emotion often leads. When choices are made earlier—“I’ll enjoy dessert tonight, but keep tomorrow lighter”—regret tends to fade.

Importantly, shame has no place here.

Studies consistently show that guilt and self-criticism around eating are linked to poorer self-regulation and increased emotional eating (Adams & Leary, 2007). Compassion, on the other hand, supports resilience and course correction. When we respond to indulgence with kindness instead of punishment, we’re more likely to return to balance naturally.

Think of the holidays as a rhythm rather than a series of exceptions. Some days are richer. Others are simpler. Health emerges from the pattern, not from any single choice.

A practical reframe helps: aim for fewer peaks and deeper valleys. That might mean choosing your favorite treat rather than sampling everything, alternating alcoholic drinks with water, or keeping evenings lighter when you know the day will be indulgent.

Balance is not about denying pleasure. It’s about protecting your energy, your sleep, and your mood—so enjoyment doesn’t come at the cost of well-being.

You don’t need to control the season. You need to stay connected to yourself within it.

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Gentle Action Step

This week, choose one boundary that supports balance—such as enjoying dessert only after meals, alternating alcohol with water, or setting a “last drink” time.

Small guardrails create freedom.

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Research Citations

Lustig, R. H., et al. (2012). The toxic truth about sugar. Nature, 482(7383), 27–29.

https://doi.org/10.1038/482027a

He, S., et al. (2019). Alcohol consumption and sleep quality. Sleep Medicine Reviews, 48, 101213.

https://doi.org/10.1016/j.smrv.2019.101213

Adams, C. E., & Leary, M. R. (2007). Promoting self-compassionate attitudes toward eating among restrained eaters. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, 26(10), 1120–1144.

https://doi.org/10.1521/jscp.2007.26.10.1120

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Reader Reflection Question

Which habit around sugar or alcohol feels most supportive to adjust gently this season—and what might make that change easier?