A friend mentioned that his father finds people where he lives (assisted care) unfriendly. His father claims the other residents don’t like to talk. I questioned my friend and found out that his father is waiting for people to come to him and engage him in a conversation. Unfortunately, it’s not the way it works. One has to step out and engage others. It’s how we connect. The more we engage others, the more we become connected and a part of our community. It really is a life changing action.
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What If I Chose Not to Respond?
What if I chose not to respond to a disrespectful remark? That’s a tough one, for sure. Yet if I choose to respond I am throwing more wood on the fire. I don’t think anyone needs to stand still for disrespectful remarks. There is a simple way to do deal with it. Say nothing, turn, and walk away. Let the angry person swirl around in his/her personal pot of angry stew. When the situation calms down, it is important engage with the person who made the disrespectful remark.and say something like, “I felt disrespected yesterday. If there is a problem, I’d like to hear it in respectful words and discuss it civily.” Nothing more is needed. You’ll find out quickly if reconciliation is possible or if it is time to move on.
Today’s Good Word ~ Participate
When I was growing up I played sports. It didn’t matter the season, I enjoyed playing. I didn’t like sitting on the bench. I wanted to play. For me, engaging ins sports is a metaphor for life. If you want to enjoy the game, you have to participate. If you want to enjoy life, you have to participate. Sitting on the sidelines lets the game and life slip by. Before you know it, it’s all over. What have you got to lose? Join in the game. Participate.
