There are countries, there are rivers, In your eyes, My country is your eyes, I walk through them, They light the world Through which I walk, Lovely one. ~ Pablo Neruda
NOTE: Valentine’s Day, a celebration of love. Every day could be a celebration of love if we want it to be. All one has to do is learn the language of the heart. The hearts sees, hears, and speaks from a place that burns with an all consuming eternal love. Nothing can escape its grasp.
I am not jealous
of what came before me.
Come with a man
on your shoulders,
come with a hundred men in your hair,
come with a thousand men between your breasts and your feet,
come like a river
full of drowned men
which flows down to the wild sea,
to the eternal surf, to Time!
Bring them all
to where I am waiting for you;
we shall always be alone,
we shall always be you and I
alone on earth,
to start our life!
In Episode 58 of my podcast, Journey from Grief to Healing, I reveal M’s identify. Understanding who M is and bringing someone like M into your life may be as beneficial to you as it was to me as you navigate the healing journey.
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In Episode 56 or my podcast, Journey from Grief to Healing, I talk with M about how far I have come on my grieving journey. The letter writing was an immense help. Writing the letters helped me to reframe what I lost when Babe died to viewing our relationship as a gift to be treasured.
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NOTE: Who matters to you? Do they know they matter? There’s a simple metric to identify who and what matters to you. Where do you spend you time? Is it time to keep a journal for a couple of days to record where you are spending our time? Consider the time when you are with the people who matter most. Is it quality time? We can make adjustments in how we spend our time. We’re not locked in. Think about this: If you had one day to live would you want to spend it on Tik Tok, Facebook, or X? Or, would you want those who love you close by your side?
In Episode 52 of my podcast, Journey from Grief to Healing, I write the first of the four letters M suggest I write to B. It is a letter expressing regret for my actions and asking her forgiveness. I discovered, in hindsight, that writing these letter, although emotional difficult, created a breakthrough for me in the grieving process.
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NOTE: We need each other. Even the most independent, self-reliant individuals need others. When we are awake to the need in others we have an unique opportunity to offer our assistance. I recall when my wife an I were driving on I-10 east of Tucson, Arizona. It was a hot desert day. We stopped to get gas and use the restroom. When we were getting ready to pull away from the pump, my wife put her hand on my forearm and pointed to a car in the next island. A little girl, perhaps five or six years old, fell down and was crying (really screaming loudly). Her parents were trying to console her and watch their three other children. My wife reached into the glove box and pulled out a package of Dora bandages (she loved Dora bandaids). She took several bandaids out and went to the family. She showed them to the little girl and handed them to the girl’s mom. The little girl stopped crying. She was admiring her Dora bandaid. Sometimes one person makes all the difference in another’s life. We do need each other.
Undying love to buy
I wrote upon
The corners of this eye
All wrongs done.
What payment were enough
For undying love?
I broke my heart in two
So hard I struck.
What matter? for I know
That out of rock,
Out of a desolate source,
Love leaps upon its course.
