Cry if you need to—for a while.
Some people are more emotional than others. But repressing your emotions doesn’t always help. If you do repress them, it’s like holding a beach ball under the water. You can do it for a while, but it will eventually come back to the surface—and sometimes in an explosive manner. So have a good cry once in a while. Let the emotions out in order to help yourself think more clearly afterwards.
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🤗 Feel Good Hack ~ Be Kind to Yourself
Treating ourselves with kindness
When we fail to meet our own standards, we are often much harsher and more cruel to ourselves than we ever would be to a friend, or even someone we don’t like very much. Self-compassion reverses that pattern. In moments of difficulty or when making mistakes (especially when making mistakes), you treat yourself as you would treat a good friend in the same situation – with encouragement, sympathy, patience, and gentleness.
🤗 Feel Good Hack ~ The Cheap Date
A Cheap Date and Long Conversations – A winning combo
Getting out with someone you trust and sharing thoughts is a great way to feel good. “Knowing you are valued by others is important for helping you think more positively. Plus, being more trusting can increase your emotional well-being because as you get better at finding the positive aspects in other people, you become better at recognizing your own.”
🤗 Feel Good Hack ~ Happiness Surrounds You
Does what you see make you happy? It might be an extraordinary landscape or your child playing. It might even be the sight of lovers embracing. Whatever it is that captures your attention, make note of how it warms your heart.
🤗 Feel Good Hack ~ Kindness, The Glue to Loving Relationships
Love’s Glue: Kindness
Kindness, on the other hand, glues couples together. Research independent from theirs has shown that kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated—feel loved. “My bounty is as boundless as the sea,” says Shakespeare’s Juliet. “My love as deep; the more I give to thee, / The more I have, for both are infinite.” That’s how kindness works too: there’s a great deal of evidence showing the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship.
🤗 Feel Good Hack ~ Finding Happiness
Finding Happiness
We can find happiness when we turn not just to nature but to one another: to our friends, our families—children, husbands, and wives—to those mundane and sustaining relationships. And we remember surely, not just to count our blessings but to recall also our griefs: those loved ones we have lost but have continued to cherish. Joy then becomes an act of courage, a leap of faith, and we remember that the world is worth loving, that happiness is there for us to grasp.
🤗 Feel Good Hack ~ Happiness & Peacefulness Are Yours
Try a loving-kindness meditation.
Sit quietly, breathe normally, and repeat the phrase “May I be happy, may I be peaceful,” says Salzberg. Whenever your attention wanders, gently let those thoughts go and come back to the phrase. After repeating that phrase for yourself, offer it up to include all beings everywhere, saying “May all things be happy, may all things be peaceful.”
🤗 Feel Good Hack ~C’mon, You Got This
Never let your head hang down. Never give up and sit down and grieve. Find another way. – Satchel Paige
🤗 Feel Good Hack ~ Tune Out the Negative
Focus on the Bright Side
A good ‘tude can keep your body humming. It may even slow signs of aging and help you bounce back from illness. Notice what’s working in your life and make a plan to change what could be better. You want to appreciate what’s good and move forward.
🤗 Feel Good Hack ~ Simple Acts ~ Great Rewards
Loving Others.
When we show love and compassion to other people, it releases chemicals in the pre-frontal cortex and reward center of the brain that professionals refer to as the “Helper’s High.” People who help others report many positive mental and physical health benefits, including lower levels of stress, lower blood pressure, and relief from depression and physical pain. Research also shows that those who engage in altruistic behavior not only have a higher quality of life, but they also live longer.1 Engaging in some type of regular volunteer activity on at least a monthly basis, or just spending more time doing loving, kind things for the people in your life, helps get you out of your own head, creates well-being for others, and makes you feel good about yourself.
