Why Don’t They Teach Common Sense in College?


Sometimes it takes a parent’s wisdom—and one shocking moment on the street—to remind us why common sense matters more than degrees.

My dad, with his eighth grade education. would often confront my brother and I who both had doctorates and ask us this simple question: “Why don’t they teach common sense in college.” Neither one of us had an answer for that. Although he’s been dead for some years, his voice came back to me last night as I was out for a walk. I live in a quiet neighborhood and the street is not busy. Coming down the street toward me was a late model Lexus. There was nothing unusual about that. As the car drew closer to me, I noticed the driver. The driver was a seven year old girl (that’s my guess) who was sitting on her father’s lap with both of her hands on the steering wheel while her father I assumed worked the pedals. My first thought was this guy has no common sense. My second thought was unprintable.. For the sake of some entertaining his daughter, he was risking his daughter’s life, his life, and the lives of other people. Common sense is important. All it takes is a 10 second reflection on what could happen. Hey dad, thanks for the advice. I’ve learned most of it the hard way.

💡 Points to Ponder

  1. Is common sense something we’re born with, or something we cultivate through life’s hard lessons?
  2. How often do we prioritize “fun” or convenience over safety without stopping to think about the consequences?
  3. What role do parents and mentors play in shaping our ability to make sound, everyday decisions?
  4. Could schools or colleges integrate practical wisdom into their teaching—or is it something only real life can deliver?
  5. What “common sense” lesson have you learned the hard way that you wish someone had taught you sooner?

Don’t Let the Missing Barbell Break Your Day


One missing barbell. One ruined day. Sound familiar? Here’s why sweating the small stuff can knock us off balance—and how to smile through it anyway.

I was talking to a gym buddy between weight sets. He was upset. When I asked him what was bothering him I expected something important. He told me he couldn’t find the bar he normally uses for a particular exercise. Then he went off on a rant about people who don’t put things back where they are supposed to be put back. It’s amazing how we humans can let some small thing ruin a perfectly good day because the small thing kicks us off balance. Wisdom smiles when we can distinguish between what’s really important and everything else.

Points to Ponder:

  1. What’s Really Bothering You? When we overreact to minor inconveniences, it’s often a sign of something deeper. Take a moment to ask: is it really about the missing bar?
  2. The Power of Perspective: A day isn’t ruined by one thing unless we let it be. Can you zoom out and see the bigger picture before frustration takes over?
  3. Training for the Mind: Just as we train our muscles at the gym, we can train our reactions. What’s your mental fitness plan for handling life’s small irritants?

Light for the Journey: No Shortcuts to Wisdom: You’ve Got to Walk the Road Yourself


Wisdom doesn’t come from Amazon Prime. You don’t inherit it, download it, or borrow it from your abuela. As Proust reminds us, you earn it step by step on your own unpredictable, unskippable, sometimes kicked in the butt journey.

“We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us.” ― Marcel Proust


Proust’s words hit with quiet thunder: no one can give us wisdom—it’s something we must carve out of our own experiences. The journey toward it may be long, messy, and even painful, but it’s ours alone to make. And when we arrive, it’s not just wisdom we gain—it’s the strength of knowing we got there on our own two feet.

New Podcast: Despair Not! Tolkien’s Message for the Grieving Heart

In this powerful episode of Journey from Grief to Healing, we walk with Tolkien through the shadowed woods of grief and emerge into the light of hope and joy. Using the wisdom of his poems “All Woods Must Fail” and “All Ye Joyful,” we explore how grief, though deep and consuming, does not last forever. You’ll be reminded that healing is not only possible—but inevitable—if we keep walking forward. By the end, you’ll feel empowered to sing again, not just because the storm has passed, but because you survived it.

Today’s Quote: Critical Need for Self Knowledge

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” ― Aristotle

The Day My Sergeant Scared the **** Out of Me—Then Saved My Soul


He could melt steel with his stare and ruin your weekend with three syllables—and I was the unlucky private caught in his crosshairs. But what he said next hit harder than a drill sergeant’s boot and stuck with me longer than a bad haircut in boot camp.

When I was a low ranking private in the army I had a tough as nails, could eat steel and spit bullets, sergeant. One late afternoon he pulled me aside. For a moment I thought my life was over. He could wear a look that would drill through twenty cubic feet of cement in ten seconds. That was the look he was giving me. I hoped at best I’d get a good ass chewing. At worse I thought I’d be on KP duty for eternity. I will not discuss the error of my ways (LOL) suffice it to say it brought me to this moment. He stared. I stood at attention. He continued to stare. My mind wondered how long he could stare at me without blinking. My heart beat was pumping harder then it did during the physical training we did earlier in the day. The he spoke, “You’re better than that.” He turned and walked away. I was left standing at attention. His words have remained with me throughout my life. They have helped me make a number of decisions that kept me moving forward in a positive direction. So, here’s to you Sergeant Carter. Thank you.

New Podcast: From Grief to Choosing to Live

In this episode, we reflect on how grief shifts when we stop asking why and begin to accept what is. Inspired by Paulo Coelho’s wisdom and poems by Bruce Kiskaddon and Mary Oliver, we explore how choosing to live—fully and courageously—transforms our pain into purpose, wonder, and connection.

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Today’s Quote Overflows with Wisdom

“How lucky I am to have known somebody and something that saying goodbye to is so damned awful.” ― Evans G. Valens

Podcast: Bouncing Back from Loss: The Power of Resilience

Grief can feel like it robs us of our strength, leaving us lost and uncertain. But deep within, resilience waits to be rediscovered. In this episode of Journey from Grief to Healing, Dr. Ray Calabrese explores how life’s challenges—whether childhood falls, heartbreak, or profound loss—shape our ability to rise again. Drawing on poetry, personal reflections, and the wisdom of resilience, this episode reminds us that healing is possible. Your journey isn’t over, and your best days are still ahead. Tune in and take the next step toward renewal, hope, and peace.

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Acceptance ~ A Poem by Langston Hughes

Acceptance

Langston Hughes

God in His infinite wisdom
Did not make me very wise-
So when my actions are stupid
They hardly take God by surprise

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