I’ve not encountered one person who does not have problems. It’s a good reason to cut each other some slack and to let the small issues slide. Some of the people we will meet today have the strength to deal with their problems, others are overwhelmed by the smallest of challenges. A word of encouragement and prayer go a long way in making someone’s day a lot better. The more we can make life easier for each other, the brighter the day will be for all of us..
Kindness
A Daily Task
“Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile.” ~ Mother Teresa
Go For It
Humans do not like rejection. The fear of rejection holds many people from reaching their goal(s). It hurts to be rejected whether it’s love, job seeking, or any other endeavor. We let our minds tell us ahead of an event, “Why try, he/she will say no.” So we don’t connect with another person whom we’d like to know better because “we know” they will reject us.” When I was a non tenured, first year faculty member at the university I went to a work shop that was going to teach us how to get published. Publish or perish was the mantra so I made sure I went. I took one important piece of advice from the day long workshop and it stayed with me throughout my career. The speaker said (I’m paraphrasing), “You’re all going to get rejected over and over again. Get over it. Allow yourselves to be angry for one day. Then read the criticisms and go back to work on the paper you submitted that was rejected and submit it again. Don’t let any rejected paper stay on your desk longer than 48 hours. That advice worked for me. One of my favorite stories is how one of my papers was rejected by five different publishers. I kept working at it and the sixth publisher accepted it. The paper then was picked up by national media. So the lesson from all of this is, don’t let the fear of rejection stop you from trying. Is there someone you want to meet but fear rejection, go for it. Is there a job you want to apply for but fear rejection, go for it. Don’t fear Going For It. Fear not going for it.
Still Hanging in on the New Year’s Resolutions?
How are you holding up keeping your New Year’s resolutions? Researchers tell us most people quit their New Year’s resolutions within two weeks. That’s neither good nor bad. No one is perfect. It also depends on how we look at our resolutions. We can increase our odds of sustaining our new year’s resolution by cutting ourselves some slack. Let’s say, for example, I resolved to go walking every night after dinner. Today, I came home from work exhausted. All I wanted to do is crash on the sofa, snack, and watch TV. It felt so good when I did it. I’m going to cut myself some slack. Big deal, I took a day off. I’ll start again tomorrow or the day after. I think when we’re kind to ourselves and stop the critical chatter in our brain, we’re more likely to keep on going. Success generally comes in small steps with lots of stumbling between steps. Enjoy the journey.
Make 2025 A Great Year
“Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.” — Helen Keller
It’s What I’ve Always Wanted
I can give things for Christmas, and I do. Things are important, not so much for the thing I give, but for the symbolism of the giving. When I give a gift it symbolizes that the person receiving the gift is important to me. Receiving a gift is much more important than the giving. If I focus on the thing I get as a gift, chances are I’ll be disappointed. It doesn’t fit. I don’t like the color. I don’t need this, etc. That may all be true. Another way to look at is, for each gift we receive, someone took the time to think of us. Being thought of is a powerful action. It means that I see you and I want to share something with you. It is a recognition of our deeper human connection. On Christmas day when I am with my family and I open a gift and feel my daughter and her family looking me, I’ll say as I open it, “Ah, I love it, a sweatshirt with a large dinosaur on front and its tail on the shirt’s back. It’s what I’ve always wanted.” I’ll slip the sweatshirt on, it may be the only time I wear it. Merry Christmas. Spread the joy and love and peace.
Peace on Earth
“Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful.” — Norman Vincent Peale
You Have Been Chosen
Most human beings live simple unassuming lives. Even those who receive notoriety are soon forgotten shortly after their death. It’s humbling to think of it that way. The super rich billionaires may build monuments, businesses, and blaze their names on them, but they too will be forgotten within a generation. We’re all in the same boat as we move through our journey. Each of us has a reason for being. It may be to do something notable, most often it’s not. Yet, each of our reasons for being is vitally important and no reason is greater than another’s reason. My mom and dad were shoe workers. They raised a family. They were kind to their brothers, sisters, and neighbors. They were good parents to my brother and me. And, they were proud of the shoes they made. Their reason for being was as important as a king or queen or president’s reason for being. Discover your reason for being and pursue it. It is your adventure. We can learn from the words of J. R. R. Tolkien, “You have been chosen, and you must therefore use such strength and heart and wits as you have.”
The Power of a Smile
One of the things that makes me happy is to see people smiling. When I see people smiling (not the fake posed kind, the kind that comes from the heart) I know they are happy. Smiles have a way of silently expressing a genuine love for others. Smiles are contagious. I know when I smile at someone, they return the smile. In that moment, two human beings made contact and in a silent way assured each other of life’s goodness. Each time we offer another a warm smile we are sharing a moment of peace, a moment of connection, and a moment of love. Mother Teresa said, “A smile carries a powerful message. We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.”
Happy Thanksgiving
Happy Thanksgiving – Grateful for all my followers. Thank you for the wonderful gift of you.
