“Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the ways you can. In all the places you can. At all the times you can. To all the people you can. As long as ever you can.”
~ John Wesley
“Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the ways you can. In all the places you can. At all the times you can. To all the people you can. As long as ever you can.”
~ John Wesley
What Adjectives Do You Use To Describe Yourself? We don’t think about describing ourselves unless we’re asked to do so on a job application. During our day, however, we constantly evaluate ourselves. What if you had to list ten adjectives to describe yourself would they all be positive? Why not? Take a moment to think about your good side and make a list of your positive traits. Here are a few suggestions:
Bright
Charming
Creative
Determined
Energetic
Friendly
Helpful
Kind
Loyal
Patient
Polite
Sincere
“By doing good we become good.”
What if you didn’t ask “How was school?” or “How was work?” Instead, you said, “Tell me about something good that happened to you at school (or work) today?” You’ll get a totally different response. You won’t get the shoulder shrug and “it was okay.” You’ll probably get a look that questions your sanity. LOL If you don’t get an answer, ask again, “C’mon, something good happened today and I want to hear all about it.” You are sending two messages, one, you’re deeply interested in what happened. And, two, you’re willing to listen and and ask follow up question to get a clearer picture of the event. The person sharing will feel good because he/she will be recalling something good in his/her life.
Your past doesn’t matter. It’s the present that counts. You were born good, you were born to contribute meaningful to society in a special way that only you can contribute. It’s your destiny. Rise to the occasion.
There is so much good going on. I witness a neighbor helping out another neighbor as she prepares to move. I read a news piece where school children cleaned a park. I know of a young musician and his dad who play music at nursing homes on weekends. I meet good people every day. I witness kind acts every day. I’m sure your experience is similar to mine. There’s good going on and it’s the glue holding everything together.
Why waste time looking for reasons not to like someone? Instead, look for reasons to like someone. Does it matter if someone is gay or straight, black, brown, yellow, or white, male or female? We all want to be loved. We all want to be accepted. We all hurt when we lose someone close to us. We all celebrate when someone close to us marries, graduates, or succeeds in an endeavor. Life is better looking for the good.
The default is to find fault. Bypass the default and find good. Find areas of agreement instead of areas of disagreement. You’ll get a lot more done and make more friends.
Alice Herz-Sommer was a Holocaust survivor who lived for 108 years. When asked how she could be happy after so much tragedy, she said, “I look for the good. I know there is bad, but I look for the good thing.”