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Why keep going in the same direction if things are not working out. It may be time to take a new direction, any direction other than the direction in which we are headed. It takes courage to admit it isn’t working. it takes courage to slam the brakes. It takes courage to change course. We know the answer if we continue on the same course. We also know if we change course we have a chance at something better. What do we have to lose?

Nothing is real to us until we experience it. I recall seeing photos of the Grand Canyon (U.S). The photos were beautiful, but did not compare to my experience of visiting the Grand Canyon. In a similar way, we can read all the books we want about grieving, but they cannot convey the experience one feels of losing a loved one. Experience teaches us at a deeper level than the written word or a photo. With each new experiences we become more deeply connected to all humanity.

I like being around folks who question everything. They make me think. I may not like their questions, but their questions encourage me to find answers. I become an inquirer. When I begin to ask questions, I open the world of possibilities. Who knows what I’ll find. Only the courageous dare to travel this road. They know what they’ve held on to may no longer be valid.

We’ve got one life to live. How’s it going for you? If it’s going great, keep it rolling. If it’s not going so well, here’s some good news. Each sunrise is a new chance. Each sunrise is a chance to change direction. Each sunrise offers a new opportunity to change our attitude toward what’s going on. One thing is sure if things are not going well and you keep going down the same road, the outcome isn’t going change. Slam the brakes, take a different road, you deserve a good life.

I like my independence. I like to make my decisions without external interference. I like to choose my own path. I don’t always make the best decisions, but they are my decisions and I’ll take responsibility for them. For me, freedom is important. It marks my footprints. How about you? Are you independent or dependent? Are you a free spirit moving where the wind moves you? Do you take responsibility for your decisions good or bad?

Think of the time wasted replaying an incident that happened earlier in the day. It’s easy to get wired and raise our blood pressure. Nothing good can come from it. Take the incident and metaphorically place it on a shelf and promise yourself you’ll visit it in a week. Most likely you’ll forget it’s on your metaphoric shelf. If you’re determined to fantasize, fantasize something enjoyable like a great vacation, being awarded an Oscar or the Nobel Prize. Hey, we can all dream, right?

When it seems as if you’re spinning your wheels and going nowhere, keep the wheels spinning, you never know when you’ll get traction. I think it’s a difficult part of the human experience to know one is working hard and remaining stuck in place without being able to see anyway forward. It’s during these moments, where overcoming inertia is the key to a breakthrough. We don’t know when the breakthrough will come, but we can be assured it will not come if we stop trying.