letting go

Let It Go or Let It Hurt: The Hidden Cost of Control

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Trying to change others may feel righteous—but it’s a fast track to disappointment. Release the grip, and peace finds its way back home.

When we cease trying to control others or stop persisting others change we instantly increase the level of our happiness. Our internal peaceful meter now moves from the red zone into the green zone. We’re not going to change people. People do things that disappoint us. We get betrayed. We have disappointments. Perhaps the biggest disappointments come from within our family. Especially those close to us. Things like this happen. There’s no one that’s immune to them. If we want to argue with them and point fingers accusing them, we may feel a moment of righteousness, but underlying our sense of righteousness is a deeper sense of discontentment and disquiet. I think it comes down to a couple of choices: 1) Do I want to always be right and unhappy? 2) Do I want to continue pushing the control button and feed my unhappiness.

💭 Points to Ponder:

  1. What would your life feel like if you released the need to be right in every conversation?
  2. Can peace truly exist while you’re still wrestling with someone else’s choices?
  3. How has trying to change someone ever led to lasting joy—or has it only created more tension?
  4. What if acceptance, not control, is your true path to inner freedom?
  5. Are you willing to give up the illusion of power to gain real serenity?

Today’s Quote: Happiness Ahead: Making Space for the Surprises Life Has in Store

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“I’m choosing happiness over suffering, I know I am. I’m making space for the unknown future to fill up my life with yet-to-come surprises.”― Elizabeth Gilbert


What if the future isn’t something to fear—but something to make space for? Elizabeth Gilbert’s quote reminds us that joy is a choice, and the unknown may just be where the magic begins.


Elizabeth Gilbert’s words are a gentle rebellion against despair. In a world that often teaches us to brace for disappointment, she dares us to soften—to believe that joy is not only possible, but worth preparing for. By choosing happiness and leaving room for wonder, we open ourselves to life’s most unexpected blessings. It’s not naïveté—it’s courageous hope.

Grieving, It’s Hard to Let Go

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Struggling to let go? You’re not alone. It’s hard. Here’s some help.

Overcoming Grief by Letting Go – Understanding the Emotional Impact of Clinging to Past Memories

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Listen to my Podcast, Journey from Grief to Healing, Episode 127 on your favorite podcasting app or click here for Episode 127

Welcome to Episode 127 of the Journey from Grief to Healing Podcast! In this episode, we explore the powerful metaphor of a dog’s treasured rubber bone and how it mirrors our own struggles with holding onto past hurts and painful memories.

Join us as we delve into the emotional and physical impact of clinging to our “rubber bones” and how it can hinder our healing process. Drawing inspiration from a touching encounter with my neighbor’s dog, Sailor, and the poignant country song “Let Go of the Stone” by John Anderson, we discuss the importance of letting go to find peace and emotional freedom.

Discover how recognizing and releasing our grip on past pains can lead to profound healing and growth. We’ll also reflect on the experiences of a widowed friend who struggles with daily memorials and how this relates to the broader journey of grief recovery.

Tune in to learn practical strategies for letting go and find hope in the message that, despite the challenges, good things are on the horizon. Whether you’re deep in grief or simply looking for a way to lighten your emotional load, this episode offers valuable insights and encouragement for your healing journey.

Today’s Poem: Happiness by John Kenyon

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Happiness

John Kenyon

A face I saw, whose outward calm
  All inward peace might well express;
  And whose, I asked, that brow of balm?
  Her name, they said, was Happiness.
  And what those fillet-bands, I cried,
  The which in either hand she bears?
  Just such round Cupid’s eyes are tied,
  And such eternal Justice wears.
  “Wouldst Thou be happy,” ’twas replied,
    “O’er coming hours must one be cast;
    And one (I knew the truth, and sighed)
    Must shroud the memory of the past.”

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Today’s Thought: There are Times of Letting Go

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A friend sent me a short video of a mother Robin feeding her babies. It won’t be long and the baby robins will be taking their first solo flight. They’ll get a bit more training on hunting for insects and worms then they’re on their own. There always comes a time pf letting go in life. As much as we want to hold on to people or things there comes a time to let go. When our children grow and leave home we won’t stop caring for them and being parents, but they’re on their own. They’ll be knocked down and have to find the courage to rise and go on. As long as they know they have someone who loves them, they’ll get up, shake it off and get going again.

Today’s Thought: Don’t Get Caught in the Control Trap

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We often complicate our lives when we allow ourselves to get emotionally dragged into events or people we can’t control. We want to control them, but they are beyond our control. We can’t control the outcome of an election, yet, we sometimes get caught in demonizing one candidate while rooting for his/her opponent. The best we can do is contribute time to work an vote for the candidate . Another complication occurs when we try to control other people in our sphere. Good luck with that one. In the end, the best we can do is to control ourselves. If we’re caught in the control trap it’s a good idea to get out of it. People who don’t try to control events or other people are generally much happier than those who dol

Today’s Quote: It’s All About Letting Go

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Happiness is not found in things you possess, but in what you have the courage to release. ~ Nathaniel Hawthorne

Feel Good Tip ~ Gaining Perspective and a Sense of Peace

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I can be impatient, especially when I know I’m right and everyone else is wrong – yikes, that’s a self admission. When we let go of having to be right and inflexible and choose to watch how things play out, we gain perspective and a greater sense of peace. If you get stuck in the loop of having to be right, imagine yourself at a ball game. Sure, you’re rooting for your team, but your also watching the game play out.

Photo for the Day ~ Let it Go!

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