We often complicate our lives when we allow ourselves to get emotionally dragged into events or people we can’t control. We want to control them, but they are beyond our control. We can’t control the outcome of an election, yet, we sometimes get caught in demonizing one candidate while rooting for his/her opponent. The best we can do is contribute time to work an vote for the candidate . Another complication occurs when we try to control other people in our sphere. Good luck with that one. In the end, the best we can do is to control ourselves. If we’re caught in the control trap it’s a good idea to get out of it. People who don’t try to control events or other people are generally much happier than those who dol
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Today’s Quote: It’s All About Letting Go
Happiness is not found in things you possess, but in what you have the courage to release. ~ Nathaniel Hawthorne
Feel Good Tip ~ Gaining Perspective and a Sense of Peace
I can be impatient, especially when I know I’m right and everyone else is wrong – yikes, that’s a self admission. When we let go of having to be right and inflexible and choose to watch how things play out, we gain perspective and a greater sense of peace. If you get stuck in the loop of having to be right, imagine yourself at a ball game. Sure, you’re rooting for your team, but your also watching the game play out.
Daily Inspirational Quotes ~ Letting Go and Opening New Doors
“If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.”
Paulo Coehlo
Inspiring Quote for Today ~ Let it Go!
“I follow four dictates: face it, accept it, deal with it, then let it go.”
Sheng-yen
Feel Good Tip of the Day ~ Don’t Waste a Moment Being Angry
Feeling hurt? Shake it off and move on. Don’t waste a moment on anger, retaliating, or ruminating, I saw a lecture where the speaker asked, ‘How would you react if you visited someone who was sick in bed in the hospital and the sick person made an insensitive remark toward you?” The speaker suggested most would simply blow it off and attribute it to the person being sick. The speaker suggested the person who hurt our feelings is sick otherwise he/she wouldn’t have made the remark. That helped me to let go of the desire to strike back or think about it incident. Try it. Anger isn’t worth it.
Feel Good Tip of the Day ~ Letting Go of Illusions
When we let go of illusions we free ourselves and no longer have to defend something that doesn’t exist. When we are free of illusions we become free to pursue all that is true, good, and lasting. It takes heaps of courage to acknowledge one’s illusions. Those who have the courage to do so know the freedom it gives.
Feeling Good Tip of Day ~ You’ll Feel Better If You Don’t Enable
You’ve Got Enough Problems, Don’t Add to Your Load
The whole advantage of other people having problems is that they aren’t your problems. When you frequently take on other people’s problems, you get into the habit of enabling. Let’s get crystal clear about the definition of enabling: enabling is the art of continuing to take responsibility for other people, thereby disallowing their personal responsibility.
Some people develop an addiction to drugs, alcohol, or food. Others choose the seemingly kinder, gentler addiction of enabling. It is of no service to other people to take on their problems because they can’t/won’t/don’t know how to fix the problem. It is of service to empower others to take responsibility for themselves and their lives, to encourage, teach, and motivate others to address their own problems.
Feeling Good Tip of the Day ~ Is It Time to Declutter?
Let Go of What Isn’t Essential
Decluttering sounds like a big project, but setting aside just 20 minutes a week can have a big impact. What can you do in 20 minutes? Lots. Set a timer on your phone and take 15 minutes to tidy up a specific area of one room — say, your closet or that out-of-control junk drawer. Put everything in its place and toss or give away any extra clutter that’s not serving you anymore. Keep a designated box for giveaways to make things a little easier (and avoid creating more clutter).Use the remaining 5 minutes to do a quick walk through your living space, putting away whatever stray items end up in your path. You can do this trick once a week, once a day, or anytime you feel like your space is getting out of control.
Note: Decluttering around your office, home, or apartment will help you to feel better. Think about decluttering your mind. Let go of other people’s business. Let go of things you can’t change. Let go of anger and resentments. You’ll add ten years to your life.
