emotions

Thinking Out Loud ~ Let the Intellect Rule Over Emotions

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Today’s Thinking Out Loud reflection is on Aesop’s Fable, The Bat and the Weasels. Aesop’s Fables is available for free download here.

The Fable

“A Bat fell to the ground and was caught by a Weasel, and was

just going to be killed and eaten when it begged to be let go. The

Weasel said he couldn’t do that because he was an enemy of all

birds on principle. “Oh, but,” said the Bat, “I’m not a bird at

all: I’m a mouse.” “So you are,” said the Weasel, “now I come to

look at you”; and he let it go. Some time after this the Bat was

caught in just the same way by another Weasel, and, as before,

begged for its life. “No,” said the Weasel, “I never let a mouse go

by any chance.” “But I’m not a mouse,” said the Bat; “I’m a bird.”

“Why, so you are,” said the Weasel; and he too let the Bat go.”

 

Note: It’s wise to collect data before making a decision. We do that when we are buying a car or other expensive items. We’ll read reviews of the product and of the vendor. Then we make our decision. It’s also wise to collect data before judging other people. We don’t know another person’s experience, or even know who the person is. There’s a lot about ourselves that we don’t know. It’s better to wait and collect data before we say something that we will regret. When we use our intellect to guide our emotions we make better decisions and judgments.

Feel Good Tip ~ Don’t Get Caught Up

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What’s Making You Feel Angry?

There’s enough stuff in the news to toss anyone in downward spiral. I had a conversation with someone who sat next to me on a recent flight.  She offered a great suggestion. She spoke of how the news had a habit of grabbing hold of her, especially the political news. She said that she had a moment of awareness of how the news was making her feel,his angry, anxious, and edgy. She didn’t like feeling this way.  She does not watch the news or listen to the talk shows/podcasts that create those emotions in her. I asked her how she stays in formed. She said, she reads it online and is aware of how it is making her feel. If she feels negative emotions arise as she reads it, she turns the switch off. She said she feels much better now. It may not be the news that gets you angry. It may be a family member, neighbor, or co-worker. Move them out of your circle. If you can’t move them out of your circle, minimize the contact time you have with him/her. That’s a feel good tip for all of us.

Feel Good Tip ~ Exercising Provides Multiple Benefits

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Exercising helps me to feel good. I’ve always enjoyed exercising. I like the feel of pushing my muscles through a workout. I like the feel of sweat running down my face. I can be carrying a load of troubling thoughts when I begin to exercise. Somehow, exercising cuts the troubling thoughts down to size. If I’m fortunate, I’ll have a brainstorm that will pop out of out nowhere as I exercise. For me, exercising is beneficial on multiple levels. It helps me physically, emotionally, and spiritually. If you’re into exercise, you know what I mean. If you’ve been thinking about exercising, start slow, and find a routine to works for you.

Feel Good Tip of the Day ~ Data Drive Your Day to Happiness

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Take some time this evening to reflect on your day. Use a notepad to record your reflections. Don’t make it complicated. Here’s what to do. Start at the beginning of your day and slowly, in your mind, replay the day as if you were watching a video. Anytime you come to an event that causes an emotion or stress make a note on your notepad. Use a few words like happy, got a call from my friend. Or, angry, reading an online article about a political event/person I don’t like. When you finish, look at your notepad and pull out the happy events. How can you make more of those happen. And, how can you reduce the events than cause negative emotions within you. You have the power within you to make your day a happier one.

Feel Good Tip for the Day ~ Watch What You’re Watching

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Watching movies or shows that stir up negative emotions may be entertaining but they’re not going to give one a sense of peace or contribute to a good’s night sleep. There are lots of other options. Have a conversation with the people with whom you live. Go for a walk. Watch music videos that give you a deep feel good feeling. You’ll feel a lot better and may even have a great night’s sleep. 

Feeling Good Tip for Today ~ Put a Leash on the Tongue

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The relationships we create are our connection to humanity. Our relationships are treasures to be be guarded. Especially the relationships that are close to us. Don’t say today that tomorrow you’ll regret you said it. When anger grabs hold of our tongue, nothing good can come from it. It’s difficult to restrain our emotions in a heated moment. I’ve witnessed families splitting because of angry words. I’ve witnessed good friends turning their backs on each other and never speaking again. All because of words spoken in a heated moment. In most cases, it was something that could have been worked through. The relationship is far more important than a momentary vent of emotions.

Positive Thought of the Day ~ Choose Joy, Love, and Happiness

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“Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness. Laugh when you can. Apologize when you should and let go of what you can’t change.” ~ Drake

 

NOTE: Spend  your emotional and physical energy on those things that bring joy, love, and happiness to you and those you love. Don’t waste a second on fretting over what you can’t change or being yanked into someone else’s chaotic ride. 

Feeling Good Tip of the Day ~ Recognize the Unhappy Moments

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What To Do When a Low Period Hits You

A positive attitude is generally a good thing, but bad things happen to everyone. It’s just part of life. If you get some bad news, make a mistake, or just feel like you’re in a funk, don’t try to pretend you’re happy. Acknowledge the feeling of unhappiness, letting yourself experience it for a moment. Then shift your focus toward what made you feel this way and what it might take to recover.Would a deep breathing exercise help? A long walk outside? Talking it over with someone? Let the moment pass and take care of yourself. Remember, no one’s happy all the time.

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NOTE: I seldom have down periods, but I do get knocked down time and again. When it happens I talk to my emotions. I tell them to enjoy their visit but not to let the door hit them in the ass when they leave. I’ll also visualize the ocean tide. It helps me realize the emotional storm I’m struggling with will leave.

Positive Thought of the Day ~ Eyes Focused Ahead

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“Fix your eyes forward on what you can do, not back on what you cannot change.” ~ Tom Clancy

We can’t change the past. Accept what happened give it all you got to make today and tomorrow better. Looking backwards is a waste of emotional and mental energy. Our future lies ahead of us. Look forward, look ahead, and look up.

Feeling Good Tip of the Day ~

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Write About Your Feelings

Ever heard someone say, ‘If you’re angry at someone, write them a letter and don’t send it’? While that might seem like a waste of time, science reveals recording your feelings is great for clarifying your thoughts, solving problems more efficiently, relieving stress, and more. A team of pyschologists recently hit on a neurological reason behind why this simple act might help us overcome some emotional distress.

The researchers studied brain scans of volunteers who recorded an emotional experience for 20 minutes a day for 4 sessions. They then compared the brain scans with volunteers who wrote down a neutral experience for the same amount of time. The brain scans of the first group showed neural activity in a part of the brain responsible for dampening strong emotional feelings, suggesting that the act of recording their experience calmed them. This same neural activity was absent in the volunteers who recorded a neutral experience.

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